I know we have all heard the dreaded question, “Who do you like?”. People of the world treat this question with little to no care of what the person thinks about it. The push to be in a relationship isn’t always straight forward and intentional. In a study by stageoflife.com 61% of teens said they had been in a relationship. Single teens all around the world see every kiss in a movie, every couple holding hands on the street, and their friends in a relationship or even engaged. None the less this persuades the viewers to “need” to be in a relationship, even if it is with someone they barely know or like.
Why is being single so easy for some and hard for others?
For many being single is not what they want in the long run. Those who are single sometimes long and wait for a close relationship that when it actually comes they have a tendency to be needy or move to fast. It is good to yearn for a partner but not to the point where it drives you insane. Moderation is key!
What is the future of your love life?
Most likely God will bring the right person into your life at the right time. Trust me you will not be single forever! This is something I have to remind myself daily. But what you do now while you are single can be a VERY large impact on how happy you will be to finally meet someone. This may sound crazy but you have to be faithful to your spouse before you even meet them. Failure to do this is why 40 to 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce. Genesis 2:24 states this, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” One man joined together with one woman are to be together for life. We have to seek guidance from God before entering into a serious relationship to make sure the person we will be dating is good for us. We can get to know people of the opposite sex and figure out what we want in a partner, but there should only be one person we fully commit to.
How to wait patiently?
Instead of letting the desire to be with someone drive you absolutely crazy turn to the one who can help, God. God is always willing to help you whenever, wherever. I promise he wants to help you find a spouse. Proverbs 18:22 even says it is a good thing to find your wife or husband, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 19:14 even says finding a spouse is the highest treasure, “Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from the Lord.”
You can ask for God’s guidance as well. Pray to God, that at the right time, according to his will he will lead you to the right person. Here is an example of a prayer I came up with:
Almighty God, father in heaven. Thank you for your perfect timing. Your guidance in my life has helped me so much, so I am seeking help again. God, I ask that you will lead me to the perfect partner at the perfect time. May he be good in your eyes and good for me. Thy will be done. They kingdom come. I pray all this in Jesus Christ’s name, Amen.
It can be hard to wait on God’s timing but I promise to you it is the best thing for you! Us singles yearn for a long-term relationship, yet we have to wait on God. Lamentations 3:25-27 states this, “The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, To the soul who seeks Him. 26 It is good that one should hope and wait quietly For the salvation of the Lord. 27 It is good for a man to bear The yoke in his youth.” Patience in God will be worthwhile in the long run.
Ask God for peace of mind. Help him to ease your worrying over your life. Try and be grateful for what you already have. One thing that tends to help me is every day I try and journal about what I was grateful for that day. Philippians 4:6-7 states this, “Be anxious in nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Jesus Christ.”
Get out and spend time with friends and family, be in good company. Whoever you are seeking you have to set time apart for and truly get to know them fully. My next dating article will be all about what to ask yourself before entering a serious relationship. Try and spend time with everyone and get to know many types of people!
It is not easy to be single and faithful, yet with God on your side, you can do anything. Luke 1:37 is one of my favorite memory verses, “For with God nothing will be impossible.” Put your trust in God to help you find a relationship. Rest assured that God has someone for everyone, and your spouse is waiting for you! Stay happy y’all!
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